flowersHow many times that you felt that you would be better off if you did take the opportunity, if you did take the offer or if you did accept the job?

Why didn’t you take it? Sometimes this questions linger in your own very minds, and worse yet it will start making you feel guilty of not taking the chances that are provided to you.
Have you ever at some point in your life felt this way? It does not have to be in terms of work or business, but in relationships, in communicating with your colleagues and there are many more aspects in life that present us with this conditions.
We will be prompted to make decisions in our life, and sometimes this could be an easy decision, and other times we will also have to make the not-so easy decisions that will affect not just ourselves but others surrounds us.
Why do we, at the given point of time misses out what we used to call as the perfect timing? Why can’t we take actions, when we saw the opportunity, when we saw the market was going up, when we saw that perfect woman or man on the street, when we saw that cheap airfare tickets, when we saw that good business deals, and many more examples… why?
There are two answers that we can derive from these examples above; One, is that you are afraid of making the decision because you FEAR that your decision or actions taken at the given time is not correct, not perfect, not the best options, and you are afraid of the impact of your decision or actions will not contribute to the END RESULT that you have wanted. The Second one is the lack of focus itself and the uncertainty towards the END RESULT as majority of the people are too focused in the FEAR itself that prevented them from taking actions, they forgot about the initial goals that they want to achieve.
Fear is among one of the most influential emotional spectrum that we as a human being can experience. Fear is an emotional response to perceive threats. Some psychologists such as John B. Watson, Robert Plutchik, and Paul Ekman have suggested that fear is one of a small set of basic or innate emotions. This set also includes such emotions as joy, sadness, and anger.
In most circumstances in our life, fear can be a huge barrier for most people. Fear is among one of the biggest factor that causes us to miss the opportunity to get a better life, a better job, meeting with that special someone and much more.
How do we overcome this?
We need to understand that fear does not control us and we need to have a clear goals and know what is the end result that we really want. Most people are afraid of making decision because they fear of the negative result, and when they are focusing on the negative result, they actually forget about why do they have to make the decision in the first place.
In whatever you do, wherever you do, you must know why you are doing the things that you are doing; because if you don’t then it means that you are just wasting your time! – Klemens R.
Focus on why do you need to make the decision in the first place. Why do you want to change your jobs? Why do you want to achieve a better future? Why do you want to have her as your girlfriend, or him as your boyfriend? Why do you need a partner in the first place? Why do you have to go to the gym? Why do you have to do your business?
One of my client once asked me that he is presented with a lot of opportunities, but which one should he pick, which one is the best options, for example in a business, which one has the biggest and quickest ROI (Return on Investment)?
My question back to him is; Opportunities are boundless, they will be there if you seek it, they will open up themselves when you are ready, but do you know why do you want these opportunities?
When you know and understand about where are you heading in your life, when you know about the end result that you wanted from the decision that you have or about to make, everything will be simpler and easier for you to choose.
it's notIn example of business opportunity, when you know why you decide that you want to have a business on your own, you don’t care of what others say because it is your life purpose – your passion, you will do whatever it takes to make it work, and successful people never quit. The business itself, is just a vessel to achieve your goals in life.
We do not need to fear to make the decision, because it is all lies within our hands. Will it be successful? Will it prevail? It is all depends on how hard to we really want to make it work. There are no perfect decisions, only the Determination and Persistence that will decide. We also need to understand that in this world, even when we decided to stay still, being indecisive of what we should do, we are actually going backwards.

Opportunities MULTIPLY as they are SEIZED – Sun Tzu
I hope that this will help you in overcoming fear and start taking charge of your own life, and be FREE from the shackles that you have latched onto yourselves.

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